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Welcome to Because Life Isn’t a Dress Rehearsal, a blog written by life and business coach Kathy Santini, owner of Arbutus Coaching. This blog contains coaching tips and advice to help you become the most self actualized, effective person you can be, both personally and professionally. If you’re serious about “growing your possibilities,” and transforming your life, then you’re in the right place. My goal in writing this blog is to help you create a life that is easier, bigger, richer and more rewarding than the life you’re living now. So let’s get started shall we, because life isn’t a dress rehearsal and time’s a wastin’.

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The key to success

By arbutuscoaching | January 6, 2010

The number one reason people don’t succeed is they don’t have a why. Ask yourself why you’re going after a goal? What’s inspiring you to do it? If you can’t answer that question passionately, then there’s a good chance you’re not going to succeed.

All too often I see people fail at their goals, instead of succeed, because someone else thinks they should diet, exercise, make more money, change their jobs, spend more time with the kids and less time at work or fill in the blanks.

The key to success is finding the why. Wonder why? Because the two overarching drives driving human behaviour is our desire to avoid pain and our desire to seek pleasure. And here’s the key point: we’ll do more in the short term to avoid pain than we will to seek pleasure.

So if you have a NY resolution, like dieting, as a client of mine did, you must find a carrot to get you moving in that direction. Stop thinking about all the things you’ll lose by dieting, focus instead on what you’ll gain.

For my client, we discovered it was the fact that she wanted to spend time with her soon to be born grandchild. Off came the weight and down came her blood pressure without the pills because she had a why. The why led to her how.

What carrot can you find, like the greyhound chasing the bone at the track, to make a goal more enjoyable? Success is all about finding the why, the how will then follow. To your success!!!!

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